11:53 AM
Rebecca T.
*This post is highly of my own opinion.
They say, "One year older, one year wiser".
But, how far is that true?
They also say, "Learn from the old and the wise". But did they ever tell you to pick the right ones?
Ever since I started working, I have to divert my views on older people. I used to think, yes, they are older thus, making them much wiser throughout their lives. So, they tend to teach you what's right and wrong.
However, to this date through my observations, I was given the image of people who are OLD but NOT WISE at all. Instead, young people (YP) are getting better at it than older people (OP). You can hardly find OP having good manners these days but you still hear a lot of them saying,
What they failed to notice is that, YP normally learn from OP. So, any more words?
Sometimes I refrained myself from learning from OP. I find some OP are not worth my time nor experience. Truth be told, I learn most of my manners from a 27-year-old man, who I adore very much.
Yes, Mr. S. <3
Putting aside his short-temper/hot-temper, he is the most polite person I've ever met. He thank just about anyone, he salam/greet just about anyone older than him etc. Whenever we enter the lift and if he is near the floor buttons, he would politely ask others coming in which floor they would like to go to. Or if we and someone else in the lift going to the same floor, he would allow them to go out of the lift first and he will be the last. Except if he were standing in front then he don't have a choice, does he?
He would also introduce me to his set crew/colleagues every time we bump into them. Talking about good manners and politeness. He's such a gentleman (please do not ever EVER change that, b. Hehe.)
I don't possess these traits myself! "-_-
Anyway, as I was pointing out, even some OP I've met cannot beat him to it.
Yesterday, I was being called 'stupid' and yelled at for a small honest mistake I did due to my workload. By a much older colleague. How did I feel?
Definitely disappointed and hurt. Who doesn't?
It hit me right off. If you are being called stupid by OP, what and how do you learn from them? Aren't they setting an example that you should call others stupid for the mistakes they did? Or are they supposed to tell you nicely about your mistakes and learn from it?
Because I was taught that no one is perfect thus, everyone makes mistakes. Unless people have never made a mistake in their life. Highly impossible. Also, I don't know but OP always think they have the rights to call YP anything they like. Why?
Please do realize that what OP are saying DO make an impact in YP's lives. Sometimes that may be the reason why YP commit suicide, gone rebellious etc. Sometimes it is not something they want, they feel degraded and disappointed by what OP said about/to them. So, when anything like that happens, first try to look what you have done before going high and low searching for the truth. The truth may just be inside you and your actions.
These are the kind of OP I find not worth listening to:
1) Those who keeps boasting and praising about themselves and their lives and experiences. Having said that, a room filled with their own portraits of them receiving awards whatsoever. They only teach you one thing: to be arrogant of your achievements. It is right to be proud of what you do but isn't it a bit too much to boast about it too often to too many people? Why don't you put a picture in your room of you kicking a puppy and talk about it?
2) Those who never for a second think before talking, yell and call you names for mistakes you did, as in my case. Yes, they may teach you something: to be more attentive and most importantly, NEVER follow their footsteps. Other than that, it is not worth listening to.
3) Those you think are ok and quiet but when you're not around, they talk too much about you and your work. They never intend to teach you anything, isn't it obvious? Otherwise, they wouldn't talk behind your back. In another words, they hate seeing you ahead of them.
4) Those who make a scene in public to humiliate YP.
5) Those who have no manners at all. 'Nuff said.
6) Those who makes a lot of noises and talk crappy things, making lame jokes. So not worth your time.
And these are the ones I find worth learning from:
1) Those who talks about life in general, nothing about them nor others. Just normal lives people live in. Then that's where you know they've been through it or maybe just something they learn in the past and decide to pass it down to the next generation.
2) Those who are not afraid to point your mistakes and tell you nicely how to amend them. Not publicly to make a scene.
3) Those who chat with you and talk to you about everything. From their lives to yours.
Now, you see I've listed down more not worth it OP than worth it. It is hard to find OP who can really teach you about life. So far, I can only find one OP in my workplace who teaches me a lot. Not just improving my English and journalism knowledge.
As for generations like me, it doesn't hurt to learn more manners because it is gold in our lives. :)
They say, "One year older, one year wiser".
But, how far is that true?
They also say, "Learn from the old and the wise". But did they ever tell you to pick the right ones?
Ever since I started working, I have to divert my views on older people. I used to think, yes, they are older thus, making them much wiser throughout their lives. So, they tend to teach you what's right and wrong.
However, to this date through my observations, I was given the image of people who are OLD but NOT WISE at all. Instead, young people (YP) are getting better at it than older people (OP). You can hardly find OP having good manners these days but you still hear a lot of them saying,
"Young people these days ah..very impolite/no manners/rude"
What they failed to notice is that, YP normally learn from OP. So, any more words?
Sometimes I refrained myself from learning from OP. I find some OP are not worth my time nor experience. Truth be told, I learn most of my manners from a 27-year-old man, who I adore very much.
Yes, Mr. S. <3
Putting aside his short-temper/hot-temper, he is the most polite person I've ever met. He thank just about anyone, he salam/greet just about anyone older than him etc. Whenever we enter the lift and if he is near the floor buttons, he would politely ask others coming in which floor they would like to go to. Or if we and someone else in the lift going to the same floor, he would allow them to go out of the lift first and he will be the last. Except if he were standing in front then he don't have a choice, does he?
He would also introduce me to his set crew/colleagues every time we bump into them. Talking about good manners and politeness. He's such a gentleman (please do not ever EVER change that, b. Hehe.)
I don't possess these traits myself! "-_-
Anyway, as I was pointing out, even some OP I've met cannot beat him to it.
Yesterday, I was being called 'stupid' and yelled at for a small honest mistake I did due to my workload. By a much older colleague. How did I feel?
Definitely disappointed and hurt. Who doesn't?
It hit me right off. If you are being called stupid by OP, what and how do you learn from them? Aren't they setting an example that you should call others stupid for the mistakes they did? Or are they supposed to tell you nicely about your mistakes and learn from it?
Because I was taught that no one is perfect thus, everyone makes mistakes. Unless people have never made a mistake in their life. Highly impossible. Also, I don't know but OP always think they have the rights to call YP anything they like. Why?
"Because we are older"
To me, I find it hilarious. Did the Bible or whatever philosophy/law books say older people have the right for that? Did I miss out something?Please do realize that what OP are saying DO make an impact in YP's lives. Sometimes that may be the reason why YP commit suicide, gone rebellious etc. Sometimes it is not something they want, they feel degraded and disappointed by what OP said about/to them. So, when anything like that happens, first try to look what you have done before going high and low searching for the truth. The truth may just be inside you and your actions.
These are the kind of OP I find not worth listening to:
1) Those who keeps boasting and praising about themselves and their lives and experiences. Having said that, a room filled with their own portraits of them receiving awards whatsoever. They only teach you one thing: to be arrogant of your achievements. It is right to be proud of what you do but isn't it a bit too much to boast about it too often to too many people? Why don't you put a picture in your room of you kicking a puppy and talk about it?
2) Those who never for a second think before talking, yell and call you names for mistakes you did, as in my case. Yes, they may teach you something: to be more attentive and most importantly, NEVER follow their footsteps. Other than that, it is not worth listening to.
3) Those you think are ok and quiet but when you're not around, they talk too much about you and your work. They never intend to teach you anything, isn't it obvious? Otherwise, they wouldn't talk behind your back. In another words, they hate seeing you ahead of them.
4) Those who make a scene in public to humiliate YP.
5) Those who have no manners at all. 'Nuff said.
6) Those who makes a lot of noises and talk crappy things, making lame jokes. So not worth your time.
And these are the ones I find worth learning from:
1) Those who talks about life in general, nothing about them nor others. Just normal lives people live in. Then that's where you know they've been through it or maybe just something they learn in the past and decide to pass it down to the next generation.
2) Those who are not afraid to point your mistakes and tell you nicely how to amend them. Not publicly to make a scene.
3) Those who chat with you and talk to you about everything. From their lives to yours.
Now, you see I've listed down more not worth it OP than worth it. It is hard to find OP who can really teach you about life. So far, I can only find one OP in my workplace who teaches me a lot. Not just improving my English and journalism knowledge.
As for generations like me, it doesn't hurt to learn more manners because it is gold in our lives. :)
